Black Women Need Ease

Here’s an honest to God truth: Black women NEED ease—no ifs, ands, or buts about it!

Black women stay doing the most. Carrying entire families, running businesses, getting degrees, breaking generational cycles, and still finding time to check on everybody.

There’s so much unspoken pressure to make it all work. And if Black women dare to truly sit in the reality that we don’t have it all together (and we shouldnt have to)—or even have a full-on "nervous breakdown"—suddenly, folks, and even we ourselves, start questioning our strength, our gratitude, our commitment, and, many times, even our faith.

But listen, something has to give, because “I’m tired” can’t just be a one-off complaint before we go right back to carrying everything on our backs. We can’t keep running on empty, stuck in this cycle of “If I don’t do it, it won’t get done.”

All Black women can’t be out here living the same bad Tyler Perry movie—where struggle is the main plot and sacrifice is the only storyline. Something has to give, so..

1. Stop Equating Struggle with Worthiness

A lot of us have been conditioned to believe that the harder we work, the more valuable we are. It’s a lie for the pit of hell. Your worth is not tied to how much you suffer. Choosing ease is not laziness—it’s wisdom. We must continue to be our ancestors' wildest dreams—but let’s be real, they didn’t do all that praying and protesting for us to be out here burning out like overused candles. Their fight was for our freedom, not just to inherit struggle in a different form.

2. Make Rest Non-Negotiable

Rest isn’t just sleep. It’s putting your phone on Do Not Disturb without guilt. It’s declining that “favor” that you don’t have the bandwidth for. It’s choosing to be cared for instead of being the one doing all the caring. It’s unapologetically preserving your energy.

3. Build a Life That Loves You Back

We give so much. But are our jobs, friendships, and relationships pouring back into us? If not, it’s time to recalibrate.

Docked Ships Is Holding Space for Ease