Black women are funny.  We be tryna'  project manage our healing.

Girl, healing is messy and layered—it ain’t a one-and-done type of deal.We are not meant to be on an eternal hamster wheel of self-improvement. Somewhere along the way, we started confusing healing with performance. Like we gotta “earn” our wholeness. Like if we don’t meditate, stretch, journal, drink celery juice, and process our childhood wounds before 8AM, then we’ve failed. Whew—who told us that?! 🙃

Let me say this real plain: YOU WERE BORN TO LIVE> NOT JUST HEAL. As long as you’re living, you’re evolving. That means you’re always peeling back new layers, uncovering old wounds, learning new lessons, and shifting with every season. Healing isn’t a final destination—it’s a lifelong journey of becoming. 

Hey lil mama, let me whisper in your ear:

You are not broken. You are becoming.

And becoming doesn’t always look like shadow work or 50 tabs open in your brain about your triggers. Sometimes it looks like dancing in your kitchen. Sometimes it looks like laughing so hard you snort. Sometimes it looks like laying on the couch watching something stupid and giving your body permission to rest without guilt.

Because that’s the real flex:
Knowing you’re allowed to take breaks.
Knowing that you don’t have to project manage your healing like it’s a construction site.

Listen, the same Godly intelligence that tells your skin to grow back after a paper cut? That’s the same intelligence at work in your healing.  You don’t have to micromanage it. You can stop obsessing over whether you're “doing enough.” You are enough.

Say it with me:
✨ I am organizing around pleasure, not pain.
✨ I am not a martyr for healing.
✨ I am normalizing ease in my life.
✨ I breathe, and that alone fulfills purpose.

This is your permission slip to drop the schedule, cancel the inner meeting, and call in sick from trying to fix everything.

 Because baby, wellness is a feature of your life—it is not your life. Life is bigger than your healing.

 Life is food, play, intimacy, naps, laughter, creativity, movement, and stillness. And you are allowed to live every part of it fully.

So go ahead—eat that donut ( if your doctor and personal trainer says it's okay) , take that nap, kiss that person you love (but not if you, your therapist, and your best friend decdied they toxic to your well-being), say “nah” to that thing you don’t feel like doing.

Every moment you live without needing to be "healed" first? That’s a healing act too

Let joy find you. Let fun reinvent you.
Let the Most High do the heavy lifting.
Let yourself be here.

Because sis—your living is the healing.
And your healing is not your purpose.
Life is.

 Docked Ships Is Holding Space for Ease 

#BlackWomenNeedEase

Sharell D. Cannady, CEO of Docked Ships

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