Ok, so yeah… Part 2 of Who Dat In The Back, is not happening right now—basically, I’ll get to it when I get to it. And guess what? I don’t feel like it TUHDAY (click here if you’re sitting here wondering what I am even talmbout').
But listen, I DO wanna' get all up in yo' business, though. 👀✨ Buckle up—we about to talk about emotions.
Cue the Lyrics
H-Town’s "Emotions"
VERSE
Sha-da-da-dee, say pretty lady, oh yeah
All things deal with emotions yeah
See it's all about emotions, emotions
All about emotions
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CHORUS
Emotions make you cry sometimes (baby)
Emotions make you sad sometimes (sugar, sugar darling)
Emotions make you glad sometimes (so glad baby, yeah, but most of all)
S/N: LOL! Yall' know that one cousin who just buss' out singing and dancing right before spilling the tea. Cousins are so unserious 😂✨
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Black Women Will Go Super Saiyan in a Minute (IYKYK)
(but click here if you just flat out itching to know more)
High-achieving, overfunctioning Black women be MAD weird when it comes to their feelings. We manage to do both the ABSOLUTE MOST and TOO LITTLE.
PICK A LANE, SIS. DANG.
Black women have the unmatched ability to channel all their energy and emotions into one laser-focused objective. It’s like everything aligns—passion and drive in an undeniable "enough is enough" moment. I call it going Super Saiyan.
And we do it under the following conditions. Now, this list is not exhaustive, but you get my point (let me put my teacher voice ON—for this professional read. ‘Cause you know one—if not all—of these is YOU):
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Feeling Undervalued or Disrespected: Doing everything while looking GOODT, only to be treated like it’s light work? Triggered. Result: Fiery clapbacks, or “I’ll just do it myself!” energy.
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Being Overwhelmed (But Pretending We’re Fine): Running on E but still pushing? “I’m fine” stays on—until it doesn’t. Result: Stress-fueled productivity, followed by total burnout and shutdown.
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Facing Injustice or Unfair Expectations: Systemic inequality? Unappreciated savior mode? Say less. Result: Passionate speeches that scream, "I don’t care no more!" followed by strategic moves so sharp they leave everyone shooketh.
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Protecting Loved Ones Don’t mess with our loved ones. Period. Result: Unstoppable advocacy with zero room for failure.
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When Overlooked or Left Out: Ignored contributions? That’s cute. Result: Hyper-efficiency to remind folks who’s boss.
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When Backed Into a Corner: Crisis or impossible situation? Watch us work. Result: Transformation powered by grit and resourcefulness.
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Feeling Underappreciated: Doing the most and still unseen? Boom. Result: Withdrawal and overachieving, just to prove a point.
PLOT TWIST: Black Women Don't Like to Feel
Umma keep it 💯: Black women move with EXTREME intensity, passion, and drive to execute objectives (for a "nobler cause" as well as when we want to exact vengeance) like nobody’s business. But when it typically comes to us simply feeling or "sitting" in our OWN emotions? Whew, that can feel like opening Pandora’s box—like, do I really want to deal with all that right now?
We often wonder... What if the sadness won’t stop? What if the frustration boils over? What if I’m stuck in this pit forever? Sound familiar? These questions are real because, deep down, we’re convinced that the floodgates will drown us if we dare crack them open.
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Here’s the truth, though: Our emotions aren’t going to destroy us—they’re just trying to talk to us. They’re kinda’ like that one uncle that drinks too much—you know the one. He will talk your ear off. But in between all that, he actually hits you with some solid advice that leaves you thinking, “Dang, Unc’ low-key spittin’ game.” That’s your emotions. Messy, uncomfortable, but dropping gems if you stick around long enough to listen.
S/N: This is Smokey from the PJ's. He's NOT Unc (he got different problems) but you get my point.
But here’s where it gets interesting: Experiencing the full range and depth of our emotions is THE HUMAN EXPERIENCE! It’s what connects us to ourselves and others. Baby steps, though—gradual emotional exploration is key, and it’s gotta feel safe and empowering.
Think of it like learning to swim. You don’t cannonball into the deep end if you don’t know how to float. You start by dipping your toes, maybe splashing around in the shallow end, and before you know it, you swimming girl. Same with emotions.
LOL! You right—my bad! A LOT of us don’t even know how to swim. So scratch that analogy: think of emotions like learning to double-dutch. You don’t just jump in wild—you watch the ropes, get your timing right, and take it step by step. Same with emotions. The goal isn’t for us to get tripped up—it’s to find our rhythm, one hop at a time. 😉✨
S/N: And it’s absolutely okay if you need a little extra help understanding how you experience your emotions. Professionals like primary care providers, therapists, psychiatrists, psychologists, and more... can help you figure out if there’s an imbalance in how you’re feeling your feelings. Ain’t no shame in getting the support, sis. 💁🏽♀️✨
Ok, let me SHOUT IT for the people in the back:
Do you need help with gradual emotional exploration? I got you! Here’s what this challenge will teach you:
- Feel Without Fear: Process emotions without letting them run the show.
- Turn Feelings in Fuel: Channel those emotions into clarity and passion without going Super Saiyan.
- Reclaim Your Power: Master the art of balancing vulnerability with strength.
And yes, there will be prizes. 👀 Not no rinky-dink ones either—real-deal, you’ll wanna brag about it prizes. ✨🎁. Interested in the Self-ish Challenge for Black Girls? Email me at [email protected]
PLEASE. PLEASE. SHARE THIS WITH OTHER BLACK WOMEN. AND HAVE THEM SUBSCRIBE: https://www.dockedships.com/stress-crisis-african-american-women-health
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Sharell D. Cannady, CEO of Docked Ships
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