Hey Y’all, Hey!

Recently, someone asked me a question that stopped me in my tracks: "Are you expensive?" I was really intentional in my answer. Because I’m in this season of cherishing and lovin' on myself. My answer? A big, resounding YES!

Because regardless of the context of the question, I’m not just expensive—I’m invaluable. PEROIDT

S/N: I’m not talking about that "manifestation" or "fake it ’til you make it" energy. Nope! I’m talking about actually standing in the full, undeniable truth of who I am as a human being, owning all the glory that is me—no add-ons, no disclaimers. Just me, as I am. 💁🏽‍♀️

I AM WORKING ON ME:  These days, I am the center of my world, and everything—my services, my gifts, my talents—flows from that. This isn’t about being self-centered. It’s about knowing your worth, standing in it, and letting everything you do reflect that UNDENIABLE TRUTH.

WHY SHOULD MY NEW PRACTICE OF CULTIVATING MY SENSE OF SELF BE SO IMPORTANT TO YOU? Well, let’s keep it real—too many Black women have perfected the art of going invisible. We’re out here juggling the world, but somewhere along the way, we’ve mastered the disappearing act—poof, there goes our sense of self. Sis, this isn’t a magic trick, and it sure isn’t sustainable.

WHAT AM I TALKING ABOUT? Many Black women straight up experience derealization and depersonalization —and we don’t even realize it's a thing. Like, we’re out here thinking, 'Oh, it's just stress,' but nah—it’s way beyond that. These are straight-up symptoms of anxiety and depression that can make us legit feel like we’re not even human. It’s wild, right? But it’s real. And it’s definitely time we start talking about it.

MY ORIGIN STORY: For years, anxiety and depression had me in a chokehold, and I didn’t even realize it. Every time life threw me a major transition, derealization and depersonalization showed up like uninvited guests. I thought that was just the cost of pushing through barriers and getting stuff done. But what I didn’t realize was that my 'GET ER DONE' mindset was actually making me invisible. I wasn’t out here playing to win; I was just trying not to lose.

I spent all my time scrambling to be organized, and disciplined, and convincing myself I had to get it together—because deep down, I believed I was way behind.

But here’s what I know now: I matter. My existence matters. My presence matters. And every decision, every move I make, has to reflect that truth. So, no more "clocking out" just to get to the next thing, no more striving for the sake of productivity. My value isn’t in how much I do, but in the fact that I am. And best believe, I’m showing up like I know it!

Let’s talk practical tips for tackling derealization and depersonalization:

1. Yes! Therapy it is a MUST. Because let’s be real—depending on how your trauma is set up, you might not be able to do any of the things I’m suggesting right now. In other words, these tips might trigger you more than help. And that’s okay! Therapy helps you figure out what works for you, so you can heal in your own time and on your own terms. 💆🏾‍♀️
2. Take a look at yourself: Lately, I’ve been taking more photos, looking at old pictures and recording videos of myself—and even posting them publicly. Now, before you think it's just for the 'gram, hear me out! This practice is all about becoming less judgmental and more compassionate toward self. It’s a reminder about being just human who visually changes day to day—and that’s okay! By doing this, it helps in learning to appreciate and ground self in all the stages, places, and seasons I find myself in. Because every version of me deserves love.
3. Feel on your body: Sis, take some time to actually sit down and lotion every inch of your body—yes, every inch! This isn’t just about moisturizing; it’s about reconnecting with yourself. Get intentional and show your body some love.

At Dock Ships, we see "a future where African American women achieve social health & enjoy maximum wellness. 

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Sharell D. Cannady, CEO of Docked Ships